Finance in marriage
seperation is a very big issue particularly with regards to
the mortgage and household bills. When marriage seperation is
inevitable obviously both parties need somewhere to stay and
often it can be quite difficult to sell one property and then
try to finance two. Some couples agree to keep the existing
property going and one partner move out into rented accommodation
for a trial marriage seperation period. This then gives each
partner time to reflect and decide what may be better for both
parties. However, both parties in marriage seperation have to
live and are sometimes eligible for single parent help should
they have children. This, together with child maintenance, could
help with their financial situation considerably.
Marriage seperation
can be a lonely one as you may not get asked to dinner parties
and get togethers from your existing circle of friends who are
still married. People intend to invite couples to join couples
and have a good time. They sometimes forget that friends, whether
together in marriage or not, should still be friends and it
often helps to keep them in the same circle of friends even
in marriage seperation. After all we are all human and need
all the friends we have especially at the beginning of a marriage
seperation. True friends will always want to help you at a time
like this when your morale is low and you need motivation.
It is also helpful
to meet new people who are in the same situation as yourself.
They will understand what you are going through and it may help
you too to get things off your chest. You never know, you may
even gain a complete new circle of friends. There are so many
meeting points for people on their own. Dinner dates, luncheons
and breakfast clubs operate throughout the country so meeting
new people, where for friendship or a new prospective partner
could be a step in the right direction to get you motivated
and get you out of a rut.
Of course marriage
seperation for the older person tends to be much harder a you
tend to think that most people by now have found their ideal
partner and that there do not seem to be many older people looking
for companionship or a stable relationship. Again, clubs and
groups of all ages operate in most areas. Obviously you will
be more cautious next time around as you have already been hurt
in the past. But you now have more experience behind you and
know what to look for in the future whether it be friendship
or a more permanent relationship.
Marriage
seperation is hard work but once you come to terms with what has
happened in your life you should be able to build a new life for
yourself and look forward to new and rewarding challenges that
come along.
© Jenny Claire