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Article: “I Am What I Think”.
Ever
wondered why some people are successful while others are not?
It's never an accident nor is it a result of luck.
As Oprah Winfrey says, "People succeed when preparation and opportunity
meet". In order to understand what Oprah is referring to, we need
to realize that we are what we think we are and what we will
become in the future, depends on what we think we will become. For
example, if I think that I will never be rich, then why would I waste
my time trying to be? If I'm overweight and deep down, I think that I
always will be, then why will I ever not be?
In order to prepare yourself for success, you must want and expect to
be successful. In other words, you must form a clear and definite mental
image of the things you want out of life and how you want your life to
be. This is the very first step towards achieving whatever it is that
you want or desire.
Most people never get to this step because of the
way they already think. They put up barriers and make excuses that prevent
them from enjoying all life has to offer. They say things like, "I'd
really love to travel the world but that will never happen because that's
just the way it is. I don't earn enough money to pay the bills, let alone
jetset around the globe. It's just a waste of time and energy thinking
about it. I was brought up in the Bronx and my life is similar to everybody
else I know - if you came from the Bronx, you'd understand what I mean.
Let's face it, people like me weren't meant to live a life like that".
Can you see the problem with this sort of reasoning
and justification? It's a recipe for failure, not a recipe for success.
Why do so many people think this way? I have pondered this question at
length and I believe the answer lies in the fact that their mind jumps
past this step and goes straight to the immediate obstacles that are seemingly
insurmountable. The end result of this is that any flickering desire fades
away before it can take form and substance. Self esteem, desire, focus
and a belief that "where there is a will, there's a way" are
essential success secrets.
Forget about the obstacles and simply concentrate on what you want. Visualise
the life or goal(s) you desire for yourself. Make
sure that you have a clear and definite image in your mind's eye. Think
about it, contemplate it and it will take shape. Hold on to this image
in your thoughts while you then creatively go about taking action to bring
this vision to fulfillment by removing any obstacles in your path.
If you want to become rich, start at the beginning - with your thoughts.
Create the vision then worry about the obstacles - not the other way around.
If you do this and you then bring creativity and a steadfast determination
to removing any obstacles, your life will change and begin to move in
the direction of your thoughts.
Of course, there are other elements that must be present for you to succeed,
but if you do this you will be off to a great start. You
really are what you think you are, so if your life is not what you want
it to be - think again and you just might change it for the better!
© Barry J.
Roche
Article:
“Dating Divorce and Transitional Sex Partners".
The dating
dilema. One of the most important steps for divorced women in rebuilding
their life after divorce is to start dating. It’ll be hard for you
too, but the sooner you starting dating, the easier it will be for you
to regain your emotional wellbeing. At
first, even though you may have to force yourself, you should just go
out and associate with other people. See for yourself that other people
don't "immediately recognize you" as a divorced woman, a loser
or a failure.
In the course
of recovering from a painful divorce, you may also discover that it is
not unusual for divorced women to go through a number of brief sexual
affairs. See, there’s always an upside! With
some, there's a flurry of sexual activity, followed by periods of celibacy
- and maybe a "special steady" for a while. This kind of activity
is really sometimes necessary, and definitely a part of the healing process
as some women rebuild their self-esteem.
Almost all
people who have gone through a divorce go through at least one transitional
partner during their healing process. This is a person that seems to be
the answer to all your dreams. They're the "special boyfriends"
that ease a divorced woman through the trauma - they're good to them;
they listen to them; they're sensitive to their needs but never demanding;
and they fulfill their sexual hunger.
It 's great
to "find and use" such a transitional partner, but be aware
of your own situation and their usefulness to you, and don't allow yourself
to end up marrying them. You may care about them a great deal, and feel
sure that they're the answer to all your dreams - that they have all the
love you could ever ask for - but don't marry them - what you're feeling
is only the peace of an oasis in the middle of a desert.
Oh, and
don't feel badly when eventually you break off such a relationship. Some
people are born to nurture others back to good health, and seeing you
on your feet again, and on your way to real happiness is the only reward
these people really want. Then too, who's to say that you won't someday
be a transitional partner for someone who's hurting just as you once did.
© Barry J.
Roche
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Barry
Roche is a Divorce Expert and Consultant Author for Divorce
and Women. He is also the author of numerous divorce articles and ebooks including,
“How To “Win” When Facing Divorce”. He is
a former Family Law Specialist who wrote this book specifically
for women. The book is available for purchase at http://www.divorceandwomen.com/help.html.
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